Grief is the way we process the death of someone in our lives. It's a reflection of our deep connection, our emotions, and the love we hold for the person who has passed away. Grief isn’t a linear journey; it ebbs and flows, changes over time, and manifests in different ways. The pain of losing someone doesn’t simply vanish; instead, it becomes a part of us, something we learn to carry as we move forward. Grief is a powerful force that impacts our body, mind, and daily life in profound ways.
When you’re grieving, your body can respond in unexpected ways. You might feel exhausted all the time, yet find it difficult to sleep. Your appetite could disappear, or you might find yourself eating more than usual. Grief can also bring about feelings of guilt, whether real or imagined, which can be incredibly painful. This guilt often comes in the form of “if only” thoughts—if only you had done something differently, maybe things would be different. It’s important to recognize that these feelings are normal, even though they hurt.
Anger, shock, denial, and profound sadness are also normal parts of grief. It may be hard to believe that your loved one is really gone. You might feel numb, as if the world around you has lost its color. Or, you might find yourself crying all the time, overwhelmed by waves of sadness. Crying is a natural and healthy way to express grief, but it’s also okay if you don’t cry. Not crying doesn’t mean you aren’t grieving. Everyone’s grief is unique, shaped by their relationship with the person they’ve lost. It’s essential to be gentle with yourself during this time.
Processing grief and the death of a loved one is an ongoing journey. The best way to start is by taking it one day or even one moment at a time. Allow yourself to feel whatever you’re feeling, whenever those emotions arise. If you’re sad, give yourself permission to cry. If you’re angry, find a healthy outlet for that anger, whether it’s through physical activity, creative expression, or talking it out with someone you trust.
Seeking help from a grief therapist can also be incredibly beneficial. A therapist can provide support, tools, and a safe space to explore your emotions, helping you navigate through the most challenging moments of your grief. Remember, there’s no right or wrong way to grieve. It’s a deeply personal experience, and however you move through it is valid. Take care of yourself, and give yourself the time and space you need to heal.
For more support on your grief journey, explore our resources at Rust Wellness Group and take the first step towards healing today.