Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention to the present moment with an open and non-judgemental heart. It asks us to be fully immersed in our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations and environment. It is important to start the practice of mindfulness outside of your sexual encounters. You can begin by practicing slow purposeful breaths, daily, while observing and releasing your thoughts. Once you have a rich mindfulness practice, bring your full awareness to your sexual experiences.
Benefits of embracing mindful sex:
Enhanced physical sensations: Mindfulness encourages a focus on the present moment, which can heighten physical sensations during sex. By paying attention to every touch and movement, you can experience a deeper, more satisfying connection.
Improved Communication: Practicing mindfulness can improve communication, both verbal and non-verbal.You can express your desires and boundaries more clearly, leading to more fulfilling and respectful sexual experiences.
Deepen Emotional Connection: When sex is judgment free and fully present, you are more attuned to your needs and emotions and the needs/emotions of your lover.
Reduced Anxiety: Performance anxiety and negative past experiences can hinder the joy of intimacy. Mindfulness demands focus on each sensual moment as it unfolds, freeing us from fear and anxiety.
Healing in Intimacy: Mindfulness can be a healing tool. It allows individuals to reconnect with their bodies in a safe and controlled way, fostering positive experiences and intimacy. It encourages self-acceptance and compassion
Practical Tips for Incorporating Mindfulness into Sex:
Set the mood: Create a distraction free, sacred space. Soften the lighting, ensure a comfortable temperature, freshen your sheets, play sensual music, place fresh flowers in the room, etc.
Before beginning, free your mind of “to-dos” and expectations including climax.
Anchor to your breath: Practice deep, slow and synchronized breathing to center yourselves
Set Intentions: Set mutual intentions for the experience, fostering communication and connection. As an example: “I will be present for each sensual moment”. “ We will be aware of each joy as it comes.”
Mindful Touch: Begin slowly caressing your partner (s) and bringing your awareness to the sensation. Touch each inch of each other, while freeing your thoughts and attuning to the touch.
Mindful Sex: Use your senses to anchor yourself to each lustful moment. Smell your partner’s body/ hair. Taste their body. Listen to the motion of your bodies together. Gaze into their eyes. Look at the beauty of their body. Feel the waves of delight.
Be gentle with yourself: When your mind wanders, come back to your breath. Send your breath and focus to your pleasure centers. You change positions or pace to encourage your full awareness.
Integrating mindfulness into sexual experiences can transform the way you connect sexually. By being present and attentive, you can enhance your intimate relationships, leading to deeper satisfaction and a stronger emotional bond.
Are you ready to deepen your connection and transform your intimate relationship? Reach out to Rust Wellness Group today for expert couple counseling and discover how embracing mindful sex can enhance your physical sensations, communication, and emotional bond.