Ciara Covey

As a therapist, I hear the same questions over and over again. They come from people of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship styles, and life stages: Is this the "right" amount of sex to be having? How often are couples with kids actually having sex? My libido has changed. What does that mean? What if I don’t desire my partner the way I used to? Our libidos don’t match. Should I be worried? These questions may sound different, but they all circle the same theme: desire. Or more...

We all carry invisible stories, especially the ones from childhood. Some of those stories are filled with love and safety. Others are marked by pain, fear, or things no child should have had to face. Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)  are the name for those early difficult experiences—things like abuse, neglect, or growing up in a home where there was mental illness, addiction, or violence. They leave a mark. Not just on your memory, but on your nervous system, your health, your...

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” — Theodore Roosevelt  Envy is a quiet ache, often dressed in shame. It shows up when someone else’s joy feels like proof of our lack. In a world where highlight reels scroll endlessly, envy has become part of the emotional landscape — and yet, most of us were never taught how to meet it with compassion or curiosity.  Rather than pushing it away or getting swallowed by it, what if we could listen to what envy is trying to tell us? What if it wasn’t a character...